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Looking for Love: The Trials and Tribulations of Online Dating in Japan
When I moved to Japan about five years ago, I quickly realized that finding love in this country was not going to be an easy task. Most western men I met were either gay, in a relationship or only interested in Japanese women. I did find Japanese guys very attractive, but they would never approach me, being notoriously shy around foreign women. I could sometimes detect a flicker of interest, at most, before they ran away. The courtship process in Japan puzzled me. From what I gathered from my Japanese girlfriends, it seemed to involve a lot of passiveness, indirect communication, text messaging, misunderstandings and patience.
Even though it is an early adopter of many technological advances and innovations, social change is often seen as slow or even non-existent in Japan. The stereotypical image of a Japanese family with a male breadwinner and a female housewife has remained in Japan even as the rest of the world progressed into a relatively gender-equal society. In recent years however, certain things about gender roles have changed, and made it much more acceptable to foreigners. Note: Some stereotype gender stereotypes still exist, such as described in our article about female categorization, and our article on Romantic gestures in Japan.
What's it like to be a foreign woman dating in Japan? This is a topic that isn't often spoken of, and can cover a wide range of experiences both positive and negative. Here are some real life stories that will make you laugh and cry. Being a foreign woman and trying to date in Japan comes with its own benefits and problems, all of which can deeply impact your emotional well-being — even down to how long you will stay in the country.
What’s Dating Like in Japan for Foreign Women?
A group of gals got together to discuss the highs and lows of the Japanese dating scene. Throw in some culture shock, the language barrier and a completely different set of rules and you have something like dating in Japan. The results were pretty interesting…. Christa: I was with a girlfriend in Shibuya and two men approached us on the street and we went out for drinks.